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  • Hell, some women are attracted to boobs themselves, is it bad when they do it as well, or is it only bad when men are attracted to boobs?

    I really like boobs too. But I don’t get distracted by them in normal non-sexual situations. The issue isn’t being attracted, it is the gaze.

    I think you’re kind of being dismissive of what that commenter is saying. It is really uncomfortable being looked at like that.


  • Hey I’m not trying to tell you it isn’t normal to be attracted to people, lord knows I’d be a hypocrite. It just seems like you’re describing a learned behavior associated with the sphere of attraction that might make women uncomfortable. I know one of the replies to your comments mentioned being so uncomfortable by men doing it that they thought about getting a cosmetic mastectomy.


  • You don’t have to be good at drawing actually! The point of that sort of stuff (drawing people, still life, etc) is to develop drawing skills.

    There are straight up indexes of photos of peoples breasts not presented sexually, if medical stuff squicks you out.

    I’m just trying to suggest things because it seems like what you’re describing might make it harder to interact with women as people and might make women uncomfortable, and if that is something you want to fix there are avenues for doing that.



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    Actually sexualization- as opposed to attraction- to breasts isn’t natural, which is wild. There are plenty of cultures where breasts aren’t sexualized, especially near the equator in some traditional cultures where women go topless.

    Also as a lesbian in the US who definitely has internalized sexualizing boobs, I don’t find it at all distracting when someone isn’t wearing a bra. Maybe it is just that I see boobs in non-sexual contexts so it only is sexualized within a sexual context? That might be useful if you’re interested in unlearning this habit.




























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